• Start Early – Do not wait until the last minute to write your vows. The few days leading up to your wedding are going to be busy and stressful, so don’t compound that stress by leaving your vows for that time. Plus, the earlier your start the more time you will have to think deeply about what you want to say, edit, and streamline. 

• Start With Simple Brainstorming – You don’t have to write your vows perfectly in the first draft. Your first draft doesn’t even have to be sentences. Start by brainstorming ideas about what you might want to include, such as things you love about your partner, hopes for your relationship, and promises you want to make to them for the future. 

• Be Yourself – Your spouse already loves who you are, so there’s no need to be anything other than exactly that during your wedding vows. For example, if you’re naturally a funny person and like to make people laugh, it’s okay to make a joke or two. But if jokes don’t come easily to you, then don’t force it. 

• Think About Length – Your vows should be one to two minutes long, maximum. No one wants to listen to a speech for 5 minutes, especially since your partner will have to read their vows, too. 

• Ask for Help – You don’t have to write your vows all alone. Ask your parents or friends, for advice for help writing your vows. You can ask how they wrote theirs, for specific tips on what to include, or you can ask them to read what you’ve written and give notes or ideas. You should also talk to your officiant as they might have specific phrasing you need to use based on a religious tradition or legal requirement. 

• Find Inspiration While Moving – It may seem strange, but oftentimes the best way to get out of your head and find creativity is by moving your body. If you’re feeling stuck or uninspired, go outside for a run or a walk, take a workout class, or even just put on some music and clean your house. This will help clear your mind and make room for fresh ideas. 

• Look to Other Cultures – Every culture has their own wedding ceremony traditions. Research other cultures that interest you and take inspiration from them for your vows. 

It may be scary to write your own vows, but it is possible. We are here to help if you want more tips on wedding planning or McAllen, TX event centers. Call or visit us today.